Fiona Hewkin Counselling 
Haslemere and Online

What is Trauma?

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Let's talk about trauma. Trauma is like that unwanted guest at a party that just won't leave. It can be an event or a series of events that overwhelm our ability to cope. It messes with your mind, your emotions, and sometimes even our bodies.

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Trauma isn't just about physical injuries or big dramatic events. It can be sneaky and come in various forms. At its core, trauma is a psychological and emotional response to something that overwhelms our ability to cope. It leaves a mark on our minds, sometimes in ways we might not even realize.

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Trauma can come from things like accidents, abuse, violence, or any deeply distressing experience. Trauma can also be caused by childhood abuse or childhood emotional neglect. This is a type of trauma that often goes under the radar. It happens when a child's emotional needs aren't met consistently or adequately during their upbringing. It might not involve any specific event or abuse, but the emotional void it creates can have lasting effects.

 

Trauma affects us, it’s meant to. Our brains work very hard at keeping us safe. The impact of trauma is devastating, and it can affect every aspect of our lives. Chronic trauma changes how we relate to people. Trauma disconnects us from ourselves and from others. We may end up in dangerous relationships as adults, experiencing abusive relationships or we can end up trying to numb the pain with drink, drugs, shopping or sex. Trauma can also leave us with depression symptoms and anxiety.

 

Emotional neglect in childhood, abuse, violent or abusive relationships or any other kind of trauma impacts our ability to manage and regulate our emotions. This is not because we are crazy or dysfunctional, it's because trauma makes us adapt to a life prepared for threat and danger, not joy and fun. We are always waiting for the other shoe to drop.

 

How Trauma Focused Therapy Can Help

 

• Understanding and Validation: Therapy gives you a safe space to open up and talk about your experiences. Your therapist is there to listen, validate your feelings, and help you understand what you've been through.

• Coping Strategies: Trauma-focused therapy equips you with tools and techniques to manage your emotions and reactions. You'll learn how to deal with those triggers that can send you spiralling. It's all about regaining control over your life.

• Processing Trauma: Sometimes, trauma gets stuck in your brain like a broken record. Therapy can help you process those memories and emotions, so they don't haunt you anymore. It's like hitting the reset button for your mind. This can be done safely so you do not get re traumatised!

• Improving Relationships: Trauma can mess with your ability to connect with others. Therapy can help you rebuild trust and enhance your relationships, both with yourself and others.

• Healing and Moving Forward: Ultimately, the goal of trauma-focused therapy is healing. It's about putting the pieces back together, finding your inner strength, and moving forward in life with a sense of purpose and peace.

 

Remember, there's no shame in seeking help. Trauma is a heavy burden to carry alone, and therapy can be a lifeline. It's all about taking that first step toward healing and a brighter future.

If you're ready to embark on this journey, use the contact form to get in touch